How Was Your Long Weekend?

Sometimes our work demands can take a toll on us. Our employer’s requirements impacts our personal schedules, our time spent with our loved ones, and our own personal time. Thus, the anticipation of a long weekend may contribute to thinking “down time” or “it ‘s a great time to do absolutely nothing!”.

The traditional time spent with family around a table filled with food is sometimes just enough to celebrate the “hype” of thanksgiving. Jeff posted this past Friday about the history of thanksgiving as celebrated by communities coming together and appreciating each other’s value.

Yes, the time spent with our families sometimes is just enough. Furthering growth and development with our family members, however, may require us to do more; such as reaching out to our friends that we only speak to once or twice a year, volunteering at a local shelter or organizing a non perishable collection with the members of our family, neighbourhood or local church.

When we want to enhance the relationships with our family members and significant others, it often involves doing more than the usual. It may also be engaging in enriched conversations about how to support each other in pursuit of our fullest potential.

Stepping out of our comfort zone tends to be a little easier when we have the support of our family, friends, and our community. Taking baby steps can help as long as we recognize that falls are common. Why not consider a whole host of ways to celebrate various holidays… while helping others at the same time?

The virus (our stinkin’ thinkin’), has us creating a standard; a stamp of approval, if you will. Some sort of measurable of what it means to be successful and happy. Sometimes to achieve this stamp of approval, we may add to our workload, increase our debt, and/or take on additional responsibilities in lives. How do you know when you are successful? And who says that what you perceive success to be is right? Or wrong?

Have you interviewed 100 people in the same position as you are in? Is this how they attained success (work overload, financial strain, and taking on too much)? Your stinkin’ thinkin’ may sound like: “You suck compared to…” “You’re not doing as good as….” “She/He has it all together! Why can’t you?”

These thoughts, paired with a struggling economy, have you increasing your workload, possibly taking on more jobs or more hours than you can handle. The result can be detrimental to your health and well-being. You may frequently experience emotional breakdowns: excessive emotions such as anxiety and crying. These feelings indicate that your body is at its limit of handling stress. This limit will be different for everyone.

When you reach this point, it is important to discover what is contributing to these excessive emotions. There are areas in your life that you will be able to change in order to decrease the chance of a breakdown occurring again. Consider your stamp of approval and what it entails to achieve it. Ask yourself if it is hindering on your overall health and well-being.

Call us today and receive coaching on how to achieve that approval without having to compare yourself to others and without having to sacrifice your health and your relationships.

Guess what… struggling is normal. For years, the Maid of the Mist fought against the current, carrying thousands of passengers into the mist of Niagara Falls, Ontario. The excitement, nervousness and uncertainty all part of the ride; all part of the motivation for going on this tour in the first place.

Think about how your life would be if you had no problems; no conflicts between family, friends, or co-workers; no challenges to face; and no obstacles to overcome. What would that look like for you? Some may say peaceful or amazing. Some may jump for joy and yell, “FINALLY!”

I say….BORING! To live without struggle is to live without development and growth. A life without conflict would result in a lack of learning skills like how to develop effective communication, negotiation, assertiveness and problem-solving skills. Well, after years of service, it seems the Niagara company grew complacent. Never facing any real competition or pressure, the Maid of the Mist just kept providing service until a few years ago when the company’s contract ran out and another firm surprisingly won the bid to take over.

And what about goals? Should we not strive to achieve things that don’t actually come easy to us? A life without struggle may actually be suggesting a life without achievement. Maslow’s humanistic approach to psychology encourages the notion that we all strive to achieve certain needs; he identified a hierarchy or needs. When those needs are met, we then attempt to fulfill another, then another. These needs, according to Maslow, provide us with the ultimate goal of reaching self-actualization (our highest and greatest potential).

We may not know now what our greatest potential looks like, however, the steps we take to get there are the building blocks of healthy growth and development. It takes patience, time, and practice to accept struggles and conflict as a normal positive aspect of our lives.

We are constantly learning how to do this; over time coping better with situations of grief, loss and all kinds of unforeseen challenges and changes we are facing. If you want assistance developing life skills faster, contact our registered, Oshawa-based counsellors and Let us help!

Many young adults find themselves in the same position as today’s blogger; puzzelled, wandering through the next steps after completing university. This is a very stressful time just like any major transition in life. After years in post-secondary education environments, often with little or no practical support for job-hunting, young people find themselves as this student …

“Launched into a sea of endless careers, and drowning?”

“The career world has changed drastically since a generation or two ago, and young adults today seem bombarded with endles job options following completion of post-secondary school.  Our parents and grandparents may not have had as much trouble. Growth in technology and the formation of a global economy has made job options seem infinite. “”How does someone without job experience in his or her field of education decide what to pursue?

Most people are no longer headed down the simple path of becoming a doctor, lawyer or teacher. Also, the days of a single career at one institution or company seem to have faded away.  Does job security even exist anymore?  Will I have to interview at new companies every five years?  Jumping into a career seems more daunting and stressful than I ever thought, and choosing the wrong path is scarier than ever.  Making the initial leap is probably the hardest part, because no one wants to get stuck in a position they feel they can’t get out of.”

As this young lady suggests, it takes a leap sometimes of faith. Faith in yourself to work hard, be reliable, follow your morals and values and the faith and courage to change if and when it may be time to move into another career option. It may also be helpful to discuss these options with friends and family, possibly even a professional counsellor or vocational coach.

Place trust in your ability to work hard, already proven in your schooling and employment history, and go out confidently into the world of work. Choose wisely and choose knowing this next job will likely be only one important step in your successful career journey. Be open to getting advice and support as required.  Keep your health and wellness (mind, body and spirit) and your relationships with family and friends clearly as high priorities. These are the foundations to support you along your career path.