Finding Solitude for the Holidays

“To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of because in the silence you hear truth and know the solutions,” (Deepak Chopra).

It isn’t necessarily the fear of being alone bothering us.  It may be we fear self-reflection, examining our mind and the potentiality of discovering answers or solutions stemming from the past? An unexamined self can contribute to stagnation; continuing to do the same things over and over again, yet hoping for a different outcome.

To keep this hope alive, we might fan the faith in our external environment and the people in it to change our circumstances for us. Maybe they will “see the light”, they will start to value our relationships with them, treat us better, and then our lives will be more meaningful and fulfilling.

Want a meaningful and more fulfilling life? Are you watching this holiday season go by, ensuring everyone around you is taken care of — everyone except yourself? The people around us are not primarily responsible for determining fulfillment in our lives. The choices we make every day, every hour and even every second can either distract from or add to our satisfaction and to that of the people around us.

Our lives may be “busyed” up  so long we are unclear how to refocus.  We may want help to discover the steps required to move forward.

Sometimes we do not have the space to experience solitude, as Deepak Chopra suggests. Ready to get help? Want to improve your journey? When considering change, counselling can help you identify obstacles blocking progress and help generate specific strategies to improve yourself and, subsequently, your relationships.

For some, the space of solitude might be found in counselling; the opportunity to intentionally examine yourself more fully, to explore the dynamic patterns in your relationships and to learn ways to develop healthier ones.

We hope that you do take time for yourself, as well as friends and family, over this Christmas holiday season. It may just be the best gift you’ll ever give and receive.