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Goal setting may be, for some, quite a daunting task that is simply just too hard to do alone. Perhaps limited experience in childhood with setting clearly defined goals is the reason. Others may have had negative experiences associated with failing to reach goals. Some people may have been coached on this skill, achieved success, thus, finding goal setting to be a pleasurable experience. Creating a list of things to accomplish can make them already feel a sense of accomplishment.
So what gets in the way of setting clear goals? (creating them and writing them down or making up a motivation chart)
- Time and energy?
- Fear of failure… or success? (yes this is also a concern for many)
- Not feeling good enough/low self-esteem?
- Distractions and difficulty focusing?
- Worry and anxiety about the future?
When we can identify the obstacles (real or imagined) then it becomes a little bit easier to begin setting smaller goals to overcome these roadblocks to our success. Facing our fears head on, with help as required, opens possibilities, builds confidence and increases our chance of success.
Setting specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely (SMART) goals is a great first goal!
It also helps to identify our strengths, resources along with areas we struggle with or that require improvement so goal achievement is more likely to occur. Drawing upon our inner and outer resources is essential to our success so being clear about these aspects greatly improves our ability to set SMART goals.
Once we create our goals, what’s next? When we set a goal to improve our marriage, get a promotion at work or perhaps even run our first Boston Marathon, we are then well advised to consider the small, incremental steps that need to happen for this big accomplishment to take place?
Sometimes, when we create our goals, write them in our notebooks or post them on our walls, we assume things will fall into place on their own. However, two important elements need to be in the mix in order for goals to be accomplished: intentional effort and accountability.
Intentional effort: Making your goals present in your day-to-day life. We may set a goal to fulfill a year from now but we need to be consciously doing our diligence each day. The promotion we seek, the improved marriage or the goal of running a marathon requires thoughtful consideration and consistent attention in order to carry out the multitude of “baby steps” or objectives along the way.
Accountability: When we create goals, it is important to speak them, sharing these with others. Research shows that the more people you share your goals with, the greater chance you have to accomplish them. Why? People will ask, encourage, remind and even hold us accountable. Most will do so in a loving and supportive way. When people hold us accountable, they believe we can accomplish what we have set out to do. This spurs us on to run a great race toward the prize.
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