The Evolution of a Marriage

Dr. Mel Krantizer, of the Creative Divorce, Love & Marriage Counseling Center, has put forth the idea that within most long-term marriage relationships, there are seven distinct marriages:

1. the ‘Movie Marriage in Your Mind Marriage.’
2. the ‘Our Careers Are Everything Marriage
3. the ‘Good Enough Parent Marriage.’
4. the ‘Time is Running Out Marriage.’
5. the ‘Is This All There is Marriage.’
6. the ‘End is The Beginning Marriage.’
7. the ‘After Death Marriage’

Krantizer contends that we grow, change, and adapt so much during a long term marriage that if both partners do not “divorce” within the marriage and move on to the next “re-marriage,” changing their views of their relationship as they grow, it will lead to conflict and possible dissolution of the long term relationship.

Many couples find that “self-help” books or tips from friends and family help them “renovate” their relationship enough to deal effectively with these changes. However, like home renovations, many people need more help than ‘self-help” books or the guy at Home Depot can provide. They choose to hire a specialist (contractor or coach) to assist them with the work.

Counsellors at Jeff Packer MSW & Associates Inc. are specialists who are available to help you renovate your marriage/relationship. We offer private and confidential solutions to help you plan your relationship renovation. Our services are available in pay-as-you-go sessions, or alternately you could purchase a prepaid renovation package; feel free to contact us for more information.

Check out the tips in this video to strengthen your communication skills and enhance your romance.